Tuesday, October 28, 2014

3 Things That Steal Your Strength

I recently spoke at an event where the theme was "The Journey to Spiritual Wholeness." As I prepared my presentation, I started out on one train of thought but, as so often happens, I ended up on another. My original plan was to just talk about the meaning of real strength and where it comes from. For me, that source is the Spirit of God. As I kept marinating over it, I was led to go in a different direction because of the many times when strength is called for, but doesn't show up. I believe that we all have a certain amount of strength on reserve, but there are obstacles that, when left unaddressed, deplete us and make us too weak to stand up to life.

Obstacle One: An Untamed Ego
Ego is one of those things that we all have but hate to admit to it. Technically, it's your sense of self-importance. Usually, when you think of ego you think of someone who's a diva or a stuffed-shirt-type. But I've even seen people with low self-esteem battle to be the best at feeling the worst. It can go both ways. So how does that affect your strength? Whenever you become the center of your own attention, it is YOU that has to keep yourself on that pedestal. Ego uses up every bit of energy, even its own, to keep itself alive. It's like being crushed under the pressure of your own weight. The Fix: Humble yourself! Know and understand that you are a "created creator." You didn't get here on your own, and you'll never make it on your own. There is someone greater than you and it's only by Him and his power that you succeed. Remember, the reed that won't bow eventually gets broken.


Obstacle Two: Unchecked Emotions
There's an old song that goes, "Feelings... nothing more than feelings." Feelings are fickle. They change with the direction of the wind, and when you allow yourself to be led by them, you lose focus. Once you lose focus, you lose control. You start making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions and set yourself of for heartbreak every time. This kind of behavior takes up way to much of your strength, and instead of standing on what you believe, you fall for anything. Why? Because you're pulled in too many directions. The Fix: Stop putting your hope and trust in people and things. They don't last. Love people. Use things. Trust God.


Obstacle Three: An Unrenewed Mind
Failure to renew the mind actually gives birth to the first two obstacles. When you don't mature in your thinking, you retard your own growth as an individual. You were made for change. Even your physiological make up testifies to that. When life hands you a challenge, do you have a tendency to rely upon the default settings in our mind rather than learn something new? Not good. What you don't know can hurt you. Ignorance nurtures fear, and fear always paralyzes. That's why you may feel like you're stuck in a rut. You may want to do more with your life, but if your thoughts are always focused on obstacles rather than opportunities, it'll never happen. Why? Because you're getting in your own way. What you think, you will inevitably say, and what you say has great power - good or bad. The Fix: Speak differently and you'll think differently. You've got to focus on the truth rather than the facts. Facts tell you it's cold outside. Truth tells you to put on a coat and walk out anyway.
Overcome these three obstacles and your joy will increase. Increased joy equals increased strength!




Monday, October 20, 2014

Coming Face-to-Face with History

You never know where your ordered steps will lead you. I say, “ordered” because my latest adventure was certainly not a result of my own planning.

A couple of weeks ago, my eldest daughter, Tyler, was asked to play at a luncheon honoring notable business women in the Houston area. Tyler is a violinist (for those of you who don’t know). She played the national anthem while the color guard from a local school led the salute to the flag. Her performance was stellar and many words of praise and pats on the back followed, one of which came from a woman who was seated next to us. She promptly booked Tyler to play the same song for her foundation’s upcoming event, commemorating the 50th anniversary of the Civil Rights Act of1964. We heartily agreed to be there, of course.

I’ve attended many events with my daughter before, but this one in particular will stick with us. The two honorees for the evening were The honorable Senfronia Thompson, Texas State Representative for the 141st District, and – hold on to your hats – Sarah Collins Rudolph, the 5th victim and ONLY survivor from the bombing of the 16th Ave. Baptist Church in Birmingham, AL in 1963. She has been a footnote in the annals of history and the Honey Brown Hope Foundation has helped to elevate her story so that our children can know that there were more than the FOUR LITTLE GIRLS we’ve all read about in history class. Mrs. Rudolph was the youngest of the victims. Her sister and three other young girls died that day because of an unforgettable act of violent hatred. Mrs. Rudolph survived, but lost her right eye and partial sight in her left eye.

Both women were more than deserving of the awards, proclamations, and accolades they received that night. One woman, a public servant and champion of the disenfranchised and forgotten, and one standing as the symbol of the indomitable spirit of a survivor of one of the harshest chapters in American history. It was truly an honor to meet them both. But I think the sweetest memory that I will cherish from that evening was watching my daughter connect with living history in such a way that she was compelled to take her experience back to school and share it with her teachers and classmates. The sacrifices of people she’s only heard and read about became a reality for her and she’ll never be the same.


God is good!

Sarah Collins Rudolph

                 

                                                                     
 State Representative Senfronia Thompson